I compiled some personal tactics and crowd sourced DIY remedies for the sads (clinical term) into a mini comic! Enjoy xoxo
Most importantly: you’re stronger than you think.
WHY DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE NOTESwow, this isreally helpful
This is 100% true
This tweet sounds as though introverts consume the souls of others before they engage in social events.
This is 100% true
I just wanted to take a minute to say how immensely grateful I am to have such kind-hearted followers. We’ve all heard the horror stories of anon hate on this site and I’m proud to say that none of you guys are like that at all. I don’t have a single message of unkind words in my askbox of 129 messages and if that isn’t an impressive mark of character on the part of all of you then I don’t know what is. You guys truly are awesome and I love you. I’d bake y’all some cookies if I could. In fact, go get yourself a cookie on my behalf, okay? It’ll be our little secret :]
Thank you and keep Staying Awesome
Hello ENFP, thanks for your question. INFJs can express affection in many different ways, depending on the INFJ. Because some of us can be very reserved it might seem daunting to try and figure it out. It can often depend on how old the INFJ is and how experienced they are with pursing people they like. A young INFJ may not yet have figured out how to approach someone they like which may lead to long hours, days, even years of liking someone without ever letting them know. A slightly older INFJ, looking back of years of unspoken love with regret, might be overzealous in expressing their affections with over-the-top romantic gestures. A mature INFJ will be able to gauge realistic relationship potential and reciprocity of feeling in pursuing a relationship. A shy INFJ may never get to the point of being able to ask someone out in person without knowing them for an extended period of time. An aromantic or asexual INFJ may never express affection at all. A demisexual INFJ may only show affection within the security of a committed relationship. An outgoing INFJ might serenade you in front of an entire room of people [guilty!]. It depends on the INFJ :)
But that doesn’t help you much does it? What you have to do is use your words and simply ask them if they like you. To get the best result, give them a lot of time to respond. I’ve always been fond of letters but you can certainly ask any number of ways as long as there isn’t any pressure to respond right away. You can tell them in person and ask them to think about it and get back to you. One of the most important things you can do for your INFJ is give them time to think.
Which brings me to the second half of your question about being too overwhelming. Be sure to give your INFJ enough space and alone time when they need it. If you feel like your INFJ might be shutting down, ask them if they need a break and give them some time alone. Don’t be offended if they need a break, they still love you, they just need a break. If you’ve planned an entire day together, expect your INFJ to need the night off (depending on how stimulating the day was and how much your specific INFJ can handle). You can even keep track of how long it takes before your INFJ begins to shut down and plan activities that are no longer than that. Let them recharge alone in their room or simply forgo conversation for at least 20 minutes (depending on how long the day was/depending on the INFJ.) You’re well on the right track by considering your INFJ’s needs :]
I hope that helps and wasn’t too general. This article here might be of some help as well but it’s a bit wordy (I skimmed it). There’s also a lot of other great ENFP/INFJ relationship advice on other blogs and on websites like personalitycafe. If your INFJ is important to you, it’s worth a little digging.
Personally, it’s pretty darn obvious when I like someone, but I’m a boisterous little otter of a human being. Ultimately, if you really wanna know, just ask!
Hope this helps,
"(contd.)… it’s the way you word particular sentences that gives me those Eureka moments and I go "this is ME! How do THEY know?"I was in the US with a great job and happy life. First time I took the MBTI test, I was super depressed because I wanted to take this decision to give up my job and move back to my country which didn’t seem to make sense to my friends. Even though they’d nod (in what I perceived to be mock empathy), I felt no one was "getting" all my reasons in the order of priority.."
(I know I said I wasn’t answering messages till Monday but I got bored, sue me)
Thank you for sharing! I’m glad you’ve found a space of understanding :)
Sharing experiences is more than welcomed. In fact, I want to tweak the focus of this blog to just that because every INFJ is different and I want this blog to be a place for us to come together and discuss differences as well as similarities. There isn’t one INFJ ‘box’ that we all fit into. Everyone comes from different contexts, has different beliefs, and different quirks. Most of MBTI focuses on similarities and I think that this could be part of what leads to typism. I hope that if we acknowledge that every INFJ is different we can start viewing MBTI as one measure of personality and not an all-encompassing diagnosis. I hope that we can come together in our commonalities to not only feel that sense of understanding but to also discover all the ways that each INFJ is unique :)
So let the sharing begin! :D
Thanks anon and never forget to embrace who you are.
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