INFJ Advice

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allexandrart asked: Hi. First of all let me thank you for this wonderful, amazing blog you got here. I'm sure I speak for all the INFJ who have read your posts that it helps A LOT. My question is: I've noticed that INFJ's tend to be religious in a different way than most people, for example, I believe in a higher power but I doubt the bible, the church and the other theoretical aspects of christianism. Maybe it's a common INFJ trait to put to doubt everything that is presented to us. What do you think?

There’s lots of room for variation here but from what I’ve heard on here and from INFJs I know IRL, doubt and skepticism run deep within us. Each INFJ has their own set of personal beliefs and how much they stick to those beliefs depends on the INFJ for sure. I’ve read descriptions that archetype us as ‘conspiracy theorists’ because of how skeptical we can be. Yet at the same time many of us are very gullible. One of our many contradictions :) It has a lot to do with the open-mindedness of the particular INFJ. 

But yes, I’d say it’s typical of many INFJs to question the status quo, question authority, doubt the knowledge that has been presented to us and doubt tradition, all of which are major factors in religious practice. Lots of Intuitive types question tradition and the status quo. I know a lot of INTJs who do this a lot too. Introverted Intuition’s mystical nature seeks it’s own answers, not the answers of the past like Si. I think that combined with our theory calculating Ti, it gives INFJs a prime arsenal to concoct very specific and personal belief systems. Ones that are subject to the reevaluating and perfectionizing focus of the Ni. 

I like to think of the INFJ’s Ni-Ti loop as a great analytical tool. I’d say it’s what makes us one of the most highly self-analytical types out there (hence all the MBTI obsession). Analyzing people and ourselves is one of our strongest gifts so why not analyze the meaning of our existence too while we are at it? Spirituality can mean many different things to different INFJs but you can probably bet that they’ve put in a lot of time analyzing it :)

Like if you’re a skeptical INFJ!

Stay Awesome

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Anonymous asked: To the infj in love with the istj, I'm in love with an estj and the best advice is to just go with what feels right! use mbti to understand each other, just don't let it stop you from a great relationship!

infj-feelings:

Thank you for your message, I agree absolutely!

– Hana

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tasnimsmentalroadtrip:

You’re doing yourself an injustice if you allow the same person to hurt your feelings over and over again. There’s second chances, and then there’s being taken advantage of. Make sure you know the difference. Is this person even worth the pain?

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I thought it was pretty cool that I have the same number of followers as my year of birth so I thought I’d make a follower gratitude post about it. Baby me would have never guessed I’d get to do such cool things (especially since I was born before the internet was even invented). You guys are the best. I mean it when I say I have the absolute best followers. This blog wouldn’t exist without your support and I’m thankful for each and every one of you. I’d rather stay at 1,992 followers for the rest of my Tumbling days with followers like all of you than have 1,992 more who weren’t made of such pure awesome. Stay Awesome :3

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Anonymous asked: I don't like being an INFJ. I really hate the fact that I'm not sociable and come off as cold and unfeeling and think too much and get emotional over little things. How do I stop being an introvert?

infj-feelings:

Woah woah let me stop you right there.

Please don’t hate yourself. I know how you feel, but please don’t let the harshness of the world hate your personality. You can’t change who you are, and pretending will only make you seem less genuine.

I don’t know if one can really stop being an introvert. I’d suggest being more outgoing to be more extraverted, but if that doesn’t feel comfortable don’t beat yourself up.

– Hana

Stop hating yourself lovies! Would you ever say such mean things about Gandhi? INFJs can be such beautiful creatures once we start putting our strengths to good use. Being caring and introspective and deep are fantastic qualities that we should be encouraging in young people. Never trade these things for being ‘outgoing.’ Anyone can be ‘outgoing.’ No one can be you. 

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One of the few plus sides to isolating yourself like us alone-time-loving INFJs do is that you rarely…

…get sick. Yea. No friends, no germs. I used to think I had a pretty good immune system but no. I just rarely come into contact with human beings, and subsequently, the bugs they carry. So it makes sense that the time in my life when I finally gain a pretty wide circle of friends, start hanging out with people on weekends and even during the week, start joining a theatre group, star in a musical, and gain a significant other, BOOM. MONO AND A SINUS INFECTION. 

Yea so my posts are gonna be less than their usual sparkly deep chasm of insight for a while. I just don’t have the brain power right now.

Like, this is my text post for text post Wednesday. Friends are awesome, but you’ll probably get mono. That’s the best I got. Not even sorry. I have mono for goodness sake. 

(okay, I’m a little sorry. but really, I got nothing else)

Don’t share liquids with anyone kids. And um, eat your veggies. 

Yea.

Stay Awesome

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I know this is going to be hard for dynamic and interesting extroverts to believe, but some people are happy being introverts. Shy people don’t stay in on a Friday night because they’re broken, they stay in because they get more enjoyment out of reading at home than they do out of going to a sweaty bar or crowded party or loud concert or violent, I don’t know, quinceanera. Quiet people avoid talking in large crowds not because they don’t know how to talk, but because they prefer listening. Shy and awkward people are not looking for you to save them because they don’t need to be saved. Why do we throw around the phrase “She really helped him break out of his shell” as if that’s a good thing? If a turtle breaks out of his shell, he will die.
Daniel O’Brien (via aingingein)

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